many guys don’t have real friends i’m hearing more and more as a narrative, which i do believe is already past its maxima low 

even moving around a bunch in childhood i’ve kept the same core group for decades & when thinking about how we’ve stayed together i realized a few systemic looking traits :: 

☆ we don’t talk about work 

☆ we don’t do entry/exit pleasantries around 40% of the time

☆ never more than 6 together

☆ same things we bonded on are the same things we bond over just with money added

☆ everyone w or w/o wife & kids did so successfully 

☆ we don’t hang out digitally beyond sending each other things & coordinating hang outs

purely speculative, but i’d imagine some field worth research exists in the second order effects of digitizing social exchange in development years.

as such, a surface i’d like to remind readers of, is the idea that young men realize they are dangerous, are more aware of the tangible consequences of that danger due to global communication networks, and are keen to understand and control it, yet don’t understand how to go about it.

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the young man is a bull. he can not help but be a bull. this is so poetic when you consider fiscal terminology.

as a bull, he breaks things. like a child with plastic trucks. smash clank crunch.

teach him to break the right things

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